Couples who are just starting out and wanting to build a strong foundation to the couples who have been together for years or even decades are all welcome to couples therapy. It’s a great place to learn, drop into our emotions, identify and let go of unhelpful habits and feel that connection.

Gottman Method Therapy is based on research, what do healthy couples do well and what do unhealthy couples do. Our objective is to increase positive affect all the time, during conflict and eliminate the “four horsemen” (criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling). 69% of conflicts in relationships are not solvable but we can have these conflicts with less pain. We are going for a good enough relationship not a perfect one.

Sessions are 80-90 minutes, the first 4 sessions are assessment, finding what’s going well and what’s challenging for the couple.

The next several sessions we meet weekly and integrate in appropriate tools based on the assessments. These may look like tools around managing conflict during conflict and the aftermath, focusing on dropping into our own experience and feelings to find deep understanding. Other tools are more geared to build on the friendship, create shared rituals and meaning, share a fondness and admiration of each other.

Then we begin to phase out, meet every other week, every month, every 3 months, 6 months etc.

I really enjoy couples work because I love to see how to do relationship well. I offer tools around communication, conflict and connection. I chime in to coach you, encourage you and model communication techniques. I get to be your relationship’s biggest fan.

We all come from a different household, inherently, we will do things differently and this can create friction. Many of us don’t have examples of heathy relationships, conflict or communication. I wish we learned in school how to embody emotional maturity, intelligence and communication. In my experience, Gottman Method teaches us the things we haven’t yet learned so we can be in a healthy, happy, long-term relationship.

I have completed Gottman Level 1 training and practice this method in my work.

Weekly 80-90 minute sessions: $300